Curving Bullets

Engaging with Dojo is like one of those sushi conveyor belts.

A lot of stuff coming down the line, I know what it is.

And every once in a while, I see something that I’m, “Wait a minute. Sure looks like that other thing. But there’s something different about it.”

Another great things about Dojo is that there is no TRUTH about any of it.

It’s all one big metaphor.

It’s all one big holodeck.

It’s just one story after another.

Use whatever has you having the life you want to have.

So, enough of the prologue.

There is a scene from “Wanted”, where the object is to curve a bullet around Wilber (half a butchered pig) and hit the bull’s eye. The scene where he does it is below. Yes, Wanted has enough continuity errors for 30 movies. And it’s still fun. And it still points at some really interesting things, from my POV.

Talking about this scene came up in a conversation about, “How do you connect up with someone when they are in reaction, when their ICs are up?”

It’s easy to connect with someone where Wilber isn’t in the way.

Wilber, here being “in reaction” or “ICs up in arms”.

And, as we all know, we just can’t step to the side to see the bull’s eye.

Wilber will just shift.

We’ve been taught that if Wilber is there, we have to interact with him.

Wilber is certainly insistent that we interact with him.

And yet, you can curve the bullet.

You can get past the ICs, the reaction, and speak to the person that the reaction is happening to.

What is fascinating to me is how does it work when the thing that you are trying to connect with is yourself?

How the hell do you contact your “bull’s eye” when your ICs are up?

Make no mistake about it, I’m a big fan of Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Even went and got certified at Level 1, way back in the day.

Just like I’m a big fan of AA.

And, if you want to go further, from my POV, you have to know when to start putting the stuff that got you here down. When it becomes another constriction in “further”.

Sooner or later, you’ll have to step out of your dance with your ICs, step out of the dance with your history, step out of the dance with your old meaning-making.

It’s not that Wilber isn’t there.

Wilber is most def there.

You just can’t interact with Wilber the way you have been interacting with Wilber.

Some interesting hypotheses being bandered about now.

Laughing at the fun of it