Description of a Possibly New Relational Dance Style

I think that a lot of what’s being going on this last week or so is pointed at relationshipping. I get very confused when I go someplace other than Dojo or the inside of my head and relationshipping comes up.

Not so much the utilitarian places: the shops, the bakeries, the gas stations, meeting people on the street walking out dogs.

It’s the other places, where the roles are not so externally codified. 

A SAS circle.

A Silicon Valley Hang.

A Hang.

FB postings. 

A lot of the not-clearly-identified-that-Kraye-is-here-in-coach-role Zoom calls.

Maybe part of the difficulty is that I’m wanting to dance a dance that other people aren’t clear as to how the steps go or maybe what the intent of the dance is. 

Thought I’d give it a try. 

Might gain some clarity about all this. 

Hoping so.

The idea of “getting points” is similar to hitting certain points/forms/executions in a dance. It’s just a way of evaluation your skill, you level of competency/excellence with this dance form.

Here we go:

It’s about being with all of what it is to be human. 

You gain points by demonstrating your ability to dance with all things human.

You lose points by demonstrating your unwillingness to dance with certain parts of being human.

Adults can talk about anything.

You get points by maintaining your seat in the face up challenging-to-you talking points.

You lose points by refusing to engage with certain topics.

It’s about being able to hold a container for anything internal. 

You get points by KOODing with difficulty things.

You lose points by sidestepping and not dancing with difficult things.

If you want something to happen, it’s up to you. 

You get points for KOODing. More points for the second O and D part.

You lose points by being a victim of the other. 

It’s about passion, not neutrality. 

Points for passion.

Losing points for neutrality. 

The point is to have all chakras on-line and ready and able to engage. 

You get points for externalized evidence of a chakra being engaged with.

You lose points for externalized  evidence of negating an enlivened chakra.

It’s about engagement with more of your self than less of yourself.

If constrictions come up, you get points by dancing with them.

You lose points by ignoring/denying them.

If enlargements come up, you get points by dancing with them.

If enlargements come up, you lose points by deny it or making it go away.

It’s about owning your yes/no.

You gain points by clearing indicating your yes/no.

You lose points by doing the victim-of-other dance.

It’s about staying present. 

You gain points by staying present when difficulties arise.

You lose points by falling into reaction or being hijacked.

Engaging with the other gets you points.

You gain points by walking into offered fires.

You lose points by negating or ignoring the other’s offerings.

These are just a few broad points-of-style. 

Lots of nuances to be had.

And it is def a learning process.